sendToURL flash to coldfusion

["phil1943" <webforumsuser@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx>]

here is an easy one. 
 I have an XML file I want to send to a basic coldfusion mailer.
 I am simply using sendToURL and attaching the data as below.
 (how do I tell the coldfusion mailer to receive the XML data and then add it 
to the forwarded email?
 I can get the mailer to work fine, but I cant get it to add the XML data to 
the email.
 Thanks for any help.

 SWF SENDING THE XML DATA INSIDE OF AN URL REQUEST TO THE COLDFUSION MAILER:
 var myRequest:URLRequest = new URLRequest("forwarder.cfm");
                        myRequest.data = cardXML;
                        sendToURL(myRequest);

 COLDFUSION MAILER THAT WILL FORWARD THE RECEIVED XML TO MY EMAIL INBOX.
 <cfmail
    to = "xxxxx"
    from="xxxxx"
     subject = "business card ORDER LODGED"
    username = "xxx"
    password = "xxx"
    server = "xxxxxx"
    port = "25"
    mailerid = "headerid"
    timeout = "20">
       this is the body area of the forwarded email.
          </cfmail>